All about the new trend-break up!!

ALL ABOUT BREAK-UP’s

Vinitha (person I know)had to face a break-up just one month after she kick started her relationship. Anand (person I know), who was in relationship for 8 years faced a break up few days ago. Sanjay (person I know) is “re-thinking” about the decision he had taken of “commitment” after months he had committed himself to a relationship. In an article of TOI today(http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2011-09-09/china/30134331_1_agent-couples-chinese-internet),it is said that “break up agents” are becoming a new culture in china.

Break-up agents inform about the break-up from the person who wants to put a full stop to the relationship to the person who wants to continue. Some support the idea of break up agents and others don’t. Whatever it is, there is going to be no stop to increasing number of new relationships and much more increasing number of break-ups. A few tips for the broken, specially for the first time.

ESCAPE. The Encouraging quotes like “Don’t walk away from problems , face it”, “Once you face a problem, it is gone” do not work for broken hearts specially when it is about relationships. So make a mere escape. Vacate the place as fast and as far as you can. Remembering the places you spent together with your ex will make only things worse. A change of place lessens the pain, if not more at least less.

More work.If your working hours is 8, make it 10. Nothing is like distraction. Concentrating more on career for instance helps. Take up a hard and tiring job. SAY NO TO SELF PITY. Fine if it hurts, many are with you. You are not the only one hurt in world. Atleast now you know you were in a wrong way. But remember strongly, loneliness is devil’s angel.

CRY. Do not ever feel shy to cry . Cry as much as you can that you hate crying anymore. Time is the only medicine here. Take time to pull all your emotions out.Do not push yourself into healing or hide your emotions. Be as much open as one can be. Sometime later you will find it is not worth enough crying anymore.

SOCIALIZE MORE," ANONYMOUSLY ".create a account in an anonymous name, speak with more people through, chat , mails etc. You will be convinced that there are worst story than yours. Socialize more with unknown people but do not reveal your identity. Speaking with a stranger can make you open up thoughts freely. It helps immensely in de-stressing you.Again, be careful by not revealing your self or anything about you.

These four things can make you escape the depression.You will never get into deep depression. But in the process make sure you do not develop judgements about the opposite gender .Be bold enough to fall into a beautiful relationship again. People do not make the same mistakes again.

Ask me how do I know this? Whether did I have break-up?, My mouth is zipped. Keep enjoying..Happy living…

An old head on young shoulders- Never be!!

It is for all the last-born in a family with more than one elder sibling. Case studies show the youngest experience most as they see everything in advance than the elders. It’s fine ! keep it with you. !! Even if your more matured than your elder siblings never ever show it. If you do, then you’ll miss the five best things in the world.

1. PAMPERING

You will be taken care of the most.. Nothing is like treating u as a kid by your brother and sister( some times you get pissed but at many times you will love it).They teach you lessons of life , advices that are most prevalent but with a different tone and love, to be precise with the most affectionate and sweet tones as if your just a new born. No issues if you keep crunching on food and never listen You will not be scolded or hurted at any cost..

2.NICK NAMES

Every film they watch reminds of you in one way or the other. So nicknames changes as fast as the minds . Cute lovable nicknames that puts an end to any misunderstanding anytime and that makes more understanding..

3.PROTECTION

Not only they protect you from the outside world but also from your parents. “ Amma, she is just a small girl. Do not scold her” will be the only words that come out of their mouths. Never tell your faults to your parents, try telling your siblings. No easy escape than that.

Any instance they will be there for you. Once when I was afraid of my results ,my brother made a sudden appearance in the place and told he would be there for me. Any time I call my sister and say that I am not fine. She asks me “shall I come to your place?. Shall I book the tickets?”.

4.THINGS YOU LOVE

Back home from any place, be sure to dig their travel bags. Surprises are there for sure. Dresses, chocolates, Cd’s , jewellery , pouches that’s of lates trends, bangles of your brother’s choice..The list is on. Remind them once that you need it and it will be in your hands days later but not too late.

5. MOST IMPORTANTLY – FIGHTS

Nothing great than fights between siblings and nothing much greater than being a victim of fights that you never created at all. When my brother and sister fight they toss and turn me that it takes hours for me to be back in shape. There were childhood days when they literally threw me to show their anger on each other. I only cry. They stop fighting and make sure I settle down fearing I would call mom. Still they are the same with a difference they hug or kiss me at the end.

May be all the youger ones do not experience the same.

Mine are the best – my mom and dad… what more in need than being taken care of. So off your old heads!!

Scratching heads!!

Seven years back when I was to complete my 10^th all that I aimed was to score above 500 out of 600 in board exams. I did not. Two years next I planned the same the thing for 12^th boards dreaming renowned universities and happy college days. But I did not get . Fours into a un-renowned university fetched me a job in a reputed Multinational company which I swear was out of pure luck. Later , I planned for an MBA degree ofcourse in an reputed institution . I tried and I am trying.

I don’t know what made me dream of big Big goals when I was not even near to it but in a positive way it kept me going. The one and only reason I would state is that I wanted to show myself unique but I do not know how far I succeeded in it.My cousin learnt in one of the top schools in Madurai, got the best marks, got into one of the best colleges,and got placed in the same company as me. And now it hits me “what is the use?” . “Did she really show herself unique?”. I was happier anyway all these years. Did I really loose anything??The very thought of doing something different has drifted from education to something I like or may like ..Well !! I do not know.. May be it is the hunger to try..that makes me keep doing it again and again no matter what the results are.... “Trying”